A year ago at this time I was full of dispair. I was sure that I was never going to get a new job, sure that I had blown the interview for my dream job, sure that I was doomed to suffer the wrath of someone who seemed to hate me for no reason that I could fathom. I'm not sure I'll ever figure that one out, but I prefer not to dwell on it. Three hundred and sixty-six days later (it's a leap year you know) I find myself humming on my way into the office in the mornings. I know that I am finally in a place where I am appreciated, and I'm grateful to be here.
According to Wikipedia, gratitude is defined as"a feeling or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive." Three major world religions are focused around the idea of graitude, philosophers have studied it, and Andy Andrews says people with a spirit of thankfulness are the people we all want to be around. Even retailers are getting in on the act. A recent study showed that customers of a jewelry store who were called and thanked increased their business by 70%. Customers who were thanked and told about a sale increased business by 30% and those who weren't called at all showed no increase. Gratitude is important and makes us feel more generous-why do you think servers write "thank you" at the top of your receipt?
Two years ago I was in a very bad place emotionally. I was horribly depressed and wallowing in my misery. Thanksgiving came around, and I began feeling even more sorry for myself. I was in this horrible situation that wasn't getting any better, what did I have to be thankful for? At the Thanksgiving table that year, my four year old daughter announced (out of the blue) that she was thankful to be with her family that she loved. Well, I'm surprised no one commented on the lightbulb that surely went on over my head as it hit me-perhaps I did have a lot to be grateful for afterall (beginning with her).
That night I made a quick list of everything that I had in my life-the things I hadn't spent much time appreciating lately. I felt so good that I decided to make it a daily habit. For one year-from Thanksgiving to Thanksgiving-I would record at least one thing each day that I had to be grateful for. At first it was very difficult, but the more I did it the better I got. I found myself noticing good things more often during the day and thinking "I need to remember this for tonight because I should write it down." By the end of the year I had filled three notebooks and realized that my life wasn't completely horrible. Some days were easier than others; this gratitude journal didn't fix my job situation or end my emotional slump (it takes more than that to fight off clinical depression), but it certainly gave me a new perspective-a chance to see the good around me even though I was often overwhelmed with the bad.
So this year, as I think about all I have to be grateful for I'm again filled with appreciation for life, love, opportunity, those who are on this journey with me. I hope you are too. If not, if stress and frustration overwhelm you, take a few minutes tonight (or right now) and think about the blessings you have in your life. Make a list. Start your own "habitude of gratitude." For me it turns out 2012 was a pretty good year. I can't wait to see what's next.
Parting Thoughts:This morning, if you woke up healthy, then you are luckier than the million that will not survive this week.
If you have never experienced a war, a loneliness of an imprisonment, torture or a famine, you are happier, than 500 million persons in this world.
If there is a meal in your refrigerator, if you are dressed and have got shoes, if you have a bed and a roof above your head, you are better off, than 75% of people in this world.
If you have a bank account, money in your purse and there is change in your coin box, you belong to 8% of well-provided people in this world.
Work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
Dance like nobody's watching,
Sing like nobody's listening,
Be surprised, like you were born yesterday,
Tell the truth and you don't have to remember anything,
Live like it's Heaven on Earth.
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